Month: April 2014
A word in season for me, and maybe you and whoever you share it with, and whatever platform you share it on
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On the 26th of April, I was at an event in Lagos tagged #LiveYourDreamsAfrica, an initiative of UK Certified Life Coach, Psychologist, and Management Consultant, Bankole Williams.
The last man that spoke that day is one of the people I’m always eager to hear from and listen to- Olakunle Soriyan, Principal Transformational Strategist at Olakunle Soriyan Company. He made three points on living your dreams, and I want to share with you, my precious reader, from my notes. Fly with me….
The first thing about living your dreams is actually understanding and being clear and certain of your dreams- that your dream really is your dream. You should be sure of what your dreams really are, and that you are not copying someone’s dream, probably because that person is popular, or making much money from living her dreams. Be sure of what you want to set your life to achieve. How then can one be sure? Myles Munroe said, “purpose determines design”
1. You have got to have a clear-cut understanding of your talents and the skills you’d love to acquire.
2. Your dreams are inbuilt, dig deep by discovering things you are passionate, frustrated, or angry about in the society.
3. Service, Loyalty, and Goodness to ALL is another way given by Mr. Soriyan. Ik Osakioduwa also confirmed this when he said, “If you want to live your dreams, serve someone’s dreams”
The second point after dreaming (clarity) is what I call WAKING UP. You have got to wake up to the reality of your society and environment, and the SYSTEMS by which they operate. When you wake up to this reality, you will discover that it is not as easy as you thought, but guess what? If you DECIDE to continue, device (legitimate) means to live your dreams, and take steps to do such, you will succeed. Success and fulfillment is INTENTIONAL. Never forget to wake up to the reality of your dreams.
Finally, he spoke on the need to have someone (or people) that we are accountable to. People we consult before making any major decision in life; people whose hindsight is our foresight. He said, “Be weary of generals without scars”. Choose people whose records and individuals around them speak volumes of their capacity, rather than themselves.
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I’ll begin this post with this quote I extracted from one of T.D Jakes’ book: REPOSITION YOURSELF. It says, “It is the home that you are working to build; work is just the tool to build it.” A lot of problems have ensued, and ultimately, broken many homes, and tracing the causes of these breakups, we discover that in one way or the other, work has played a vital role in it. The home is the first agent of socialization/social institution that a child is exposed to, and it is from here that the individual (or child) develops qualities that he/she carries throughout life. Whether you were born in a manger, on the street, beside a dump site, in a hospital, in a sitting room or bedroom, in a cave, or in a maximum security prison, the underlying truth is that you were born into a family, and the family you grew up with and the family you adopted (or adapted to), have, or are playing a role in the person you are, the school you attend, and the place you work.
Your family is that group, persons, or person that supported your dreams and ambitions because they want to see you grow. Not grow away from them, but grow WITH them. I say again, that thing that is taking you away from your family, is actually a tool that is supposed to take you WITH your family. No job or business is as important as the people that helped you get there- your family.
What is my point? My point is that, no matter what you do, you do it because of your family. Whether you are still in school or having a form of education, have a job, or a business, you are out there for your family. Whatever you do, you do to build your family, not tear them apart. Be careful not to grow apart of your family, thinking you are growing up to help them. Read this out loud to yourself, My family does not “need” my money, they need ME!! Always get your family involved in whatsoever you do, keep the connection alive, never fly away from their position without carrying them along. It’s not about having a vacation every six months, it’s about having a connection EVERYDAY.
We just have to put our jobs, businesses, and career in their right place: they are tools to build our family. Your family prefers to spend the worst times WITH you, than to spend the prosperous times WITHOUT you. That you have series of meetings and events should not be an excuse for not hanging out and connecting with your “pals” (friends and family).
Children become lonely due to non-presence of, and lack of adequate information from parents, leading to them being exposed to all sorts of negative information that can destroy their productivity in life; teenagers become socially maladjusted, leading to their involvement in social vices, and youthful exuberant behaviours, they may also fight with parents and teachers; fathers and mothers “grow” tired of each other and resort to BREAKing UP, because they all grew away from each other, thinking they were growing up. If your growing up does not include your family- people that matter in your life- then you are not growing up, you are only GROWING APART.
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You think English is easy?
Have a look……and Shareeeee!
1) The bandage was wound around the wound.
2) The farm was used to produce produce.
3) The dump was so full that it had to refuse more refuse.
4) We must polish the Polish furniture.
5) He could lead if he would get the lead out.
6) The soldier decided to desert his dessert in the desert..
7) Since there is no time like the present, he thought it was time to present the present.
8) A bass was painted on the head of the bass drum.
9) When shot at, the dove dove into the bushes.
10) I did not object to the object.
11) The insurance was invalid for the invalid.
12) There was a row among the oarsmen about how to row.
13) They were too close to the door to close it.
14) The buck does funny things when the does are present.
15) A seamstress and a sewer fell down into a sewer line.
16) To help with planting, the farmer taught his sow to sow.
17) The wind was too strong to wind the sail.
18) Upon seeing the tear in the painting I shed a tear..
19) I had to subject the subject to a series of tests.
20) How can I intimate this to my most intimate friend?
Let’s face it. There is no egg in eggplant, nor ham in hamburger; neither apple nor pine in pineapple. English muffins weren’t invented in England or French fries in
France . Sweetmeats are candies while sweetbreads, which aren’t sweet, are meat.
We take English for granted. But if we explore its paradoxes, we find that quicksand can work slowly, boxing rings are square and a guinea pig is neither from Guinea nor is it a pig.
And why is it that writers write but fingers don’t fing, grocers don’t groce and hammers don’t ham?
If the plural of tooth is teeth, why isn’t the plural of booth, beeth? One goose, 2 geese. So one moose, 2 meese? One index, 2 indexes?
Doesn’t it seem crazy that you can make amends but not one amend? If you have a bunch of odds and ends and get rid of all but one of them, what do you call it?
If teachers taught, why didn’t preachers praught? If a vegetarian eats vegetables, what does a humanitarian eat?
In what language do people recite at a play and play at a recital? Ship by truck and send cargo by ship? Have noses that run and feet that smell?
How can a slim chance and a fat chance be the same, while a wise man and a wise guy are opposites? You have to marvel at the unique style of a language in which your house can burn up as it burns down, in which you fill in a form by filling it out and in which, an alarm goes off by going on.
English was invented by people, not computers and it reflects the creativity of the human race, which, of course, is not a race at all.
That is why, when the stars are out, they are visible, but when the lights are out, they are invisible.
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Hello friends, today I’ll be sharing three lessons I learnt just this week. Out of the numerous things I have learnt and is learning this week, I’ll share this important three. Fly with me!!!
Never accept a job/gig you are not prepared for:
In one of my posts- Prepare for glory I opened up to us the need for us not to wait for our “future” but prepare for it. Also, I moved further to say that the future is not a place or time far from us, but the result of our daily activities. What happens when you are given the opportunity to make your business proposal (by displaying your skills and talents) and you have nothing prepared to display? The lessons here are: If you are not ready for it, do not take it. It’s no point accepting a job when you know you cannot perform. Just reject it!!! The second lesson is that, do something everyday that is commensurate with your perceived “future”. Do something everyday that can and will take you to where you want to be.
When the expectations of you are high, too high for your capacity, just reject it dear. Do not put yourself in disgrace because you are trying to please another person. If you are not capable of doing something now, state it, and don’t accept the job!!!
Be focused at all times
No matter what happens, keep your head in the game, and your eyes on the goal. Distraction really are what you get when you take your eyes off the goal. The goal is ahead of you, and if you take your eyes off it because of distractions, you will fall.
Give up when necessary
Please, before you throw a bomb at me, let me say what I meant. When you discover that what you are doing is not what you are supposed to do, then I suggest you give up. We are all unique, and if you are not in your PLACE, there’s not much you can do. So, quit!! Not just quit, but quit and begin what you are really passionate about. I’m not saying you quit when things are not working out, but quit when you realize you are not in your place, and are not prepared for the job/gig.
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The first time I noticed my son’s odd habit was when I carried him on my legs in church, I realized he would become quite uncomfortable when my hand was not resting on his crotch, not his thigh, but his crotch, at first I thought maybe he was in pain, and I initially got worried, bit I later noticed his hands where going between my legs, this was not an unconscious action, he knew exactly what he was doing, because I brushed his hand away and gave him a stern look, but moments later I noticed he was doing it again, so I had to drop him off my legs and made him sit on a chair by himself, and did I mention my son was just 4 years old?
When we got home, I brought it to the attention of my husband, and in his usual manner he tried…
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